Feeling the strain

June 11, 2008 – 10:29 am | Filed in: Personal

Not much has been happening lately, just me searching for jobs, applying for jobs and helping Sean with his Disability Living Allowance appeal. I am really starting to feel the strain, I’m feeling so down over the situation. It has gotten so bad, my In-Laws are paying for our groceries to help us out. Sean’s appeal process could take yet another three months and I can’t seem to find work. We really are stuck in a rut.

I am disgusted with the benefit system in this country. This benefit system advises people to make themselves unemployed to be “better off” and to be able to claim the benefits. That is no option for Sean, for us. We have our dignity. I know how hard he found it looking for work when he lost the cinema job a few years back. If it is hard for me to find work, goodness knows how he will find it.

I am finding getting a job difficult because there are not many to go around and whatever is available I am under qualified for. For instance, a minimum wage Administrator job requires you to have so many months/years experience in an office environment or such-and-such of a qualification. I have the equivalent of two-and-a-half A Levels, yet I cannot get work. I really am starting to believe studying IT at college was a complete waste of two years, and that I should have just gone into work-based learning to get some proper experience. The qualification I have means nothing to employers, it seems. They want people with experience these days, but I don’t have enough office experience. If no company is willing to employ someone new to the field, then how can they ever hire anyone with experience? People have to start somewhere, it seems there is no where to start.

I have thought of many options, I have even thought of going back to college to get an office qualification. Some courses offer a day’s work placement a week to get that much-needed experience. The only trouble is the course I am interested in is full-time and I need to try to find a job to support myself during study. It isn’t fair on Sean to have to support me while I pursue learning. I have looked into “Return to Work” courses, but they need you to have experience in the field you’re wanting to study in. It may be unlikely I go back to college, I can’t afford to. I was turned down for Job Seeker’s Allowance yet again, so I can’t get my college funded. I can’t afford to pay £500+ to go on a course. It sucks, I am stuck.

The other option is getting my portfolio up and trying to find web development work, which I would love. My dream job would be to design websites, but opportunities don’t come often around here. I don’t drive so I can’t venture off too far. I know I am good at web design, it is the only thing I am certain about these days. I absolutely love it. I do need more PHP experience, I plan to learn the language so that I am more likely to get the job.

What should I do? All I can do is just keep looking for work and hope something comes up. For how long can I do this before I crack? I feel so useless. I really feel people close to me are disappointed. I wonder what my nan and granddad would think if they were still alive?

Chien

June 11th, 2008 at 12:49 pm

*hugs* I hope everything turns out for the best. I can’t give any good advice, since I’m not one with expertise in all these types of issues.

All the best! :)


Rachael

June 11th, 2008 at 12:51 pm

I got my first office position with no experience whatsoever, so don’t let the “minimum 1 years experience” statement put you off. That’s just there to deter people who think it’ll be easy. It won’t be easy. I know that you have the skill and the ability to be great in an office, so don’t be put off, okay?

As for office qualifications… meh. Save your money.


Sarah

June 11th, 2008 at 12:58 pm

@Chien: Thank you. :)

@Rachael: I have actually applied for a few jobs even though they are after so many years of experience. I applied anyway to see if anything came about them. I never got an interview for any of them, just rejection letters. This is why I feel applying for these jobs is futile. I can keep trying I suppose, but I’m not optimistic.

I’m glad you think I can cut working in an office. I have done office work, but only a couple of months, and that was in a call centre. I just think these companies don’t want me. Heh.


Jem

June 11th, 2008 at 1:37 pm

I agree with Rachaely - apply even if you don’t match the experience needed. All you need to do is “big up” your knowledge and explain that although you’re not very experienced, you’re still capable.

You could always send me your CV and I could give you some tips to spice it up a bit :)


Aisling

June 11th, 2008 at 2:37 pm

Yeah, just, keep applying everywhere! Also, if you have the opportunity (i.e. you are job hunting, but still have a big chunk of your day left over), you could try volunteering in an office position with a not-for-profit organization! When I did Katimavik (youth volunteer program), I worked with a few organizations in an office setting, and it provided LOADS of experience.


Chris

June 11th, 2008 at 2:55 pm

Your Finally realising that no matter how smart you are on web design or what qualifications you got, which i still not in the job i liked to do, welcome to the real world sarah, no one really cares that i have a degree or you are so good at web design, thats the way of this govenment, all that time i was telling you and you was saying i was nasty to you when i was telling the truth to you


Sarah

June 11th, 2008 at 6:06 pm

@Chris: I have never lived in a dream land over this. I do know what the real world is like, so stop patronising me. I am not a little girl, you are only eighteen months older than me. I guarantee I have more maturity than you. I would never threaten to dig up someone’s dead body and threaten their family, like you have with me.

You haven’t been nasty? You really are delusional. You have done nothing but leave malicious comments from wanting to do things to my rotting corpse to insulting my husband. That is the “truth”. You really do talk out of your arse.

People do care I am good at web design, I didn’t even say no one cared. I said no one cares that I have an IT qualification. Why the hell do you keep visiting my site and commenting? I thought you were “done with me” and “moved on”? You don’t care about me in the slightest, so don’t even act like you do. You treated me like utter crap when we were in a relationship, you never cared for me.

I do not care about you whatsoever, in fact I dislike you. There is no chance of a reconcile of friendship, you have done too much damage. I don’t like you as a person, I would never be able to consider you a friend. You severed all chances years ago when you was violent towards me. I am now happily married and doing well, considering the situation. I suggest you get over me already and leave me, my family and my husband alone.


Sarah

June 11th, 2008 at 6:08 pm

@Jem: That would be helpful, thank you!

@Aisling: I have thought of doing voluntary work, I will be looking into it. Thanks for the suggestion anyway. :)


Kristina

June 11th, 2008 at 7:20 pm

*e-hugs*

I don’t know what to say because I’m not experienced with stuff like this, but hugs anyway.

:(


Jem

June 11th, 2008 at 8:22 pm

‘no one really cares that i have a degree’ .. who’s work did you steal to get that one Chris?

o.O


Chris

June 11th, 2008 at 9:17 pm

I dont care Jem, I still got my degree and your words aint going to change that, nothing will. and to be honest i did all the work myself at university thank you i earn that degree


Sarah

June 11th, 2008 at 9:44 pm

“and to be honest i did all the work myself at university thank you i earn that degree”

You got that degree because you somehow got through college, even though you copied my college work. I’m guessing you sucked up to the Principal, “sucked” being the operative word. :P

You still failed in my eyes. You didn’t get through college honestly.


Melissa

June 11th, 2008 at 9:44 pm

@Chris: GTFO. :P Your grammar/spelling would say otherwise.


Rachael

June 11th, 2008 at 9:51 pm

@Chris - Sucked up to the principal, or sucked the principal?


Melissa

June 11th, 2008 at 9:59 pm

I know exactly what you’re going through. After I graduated university I actually worked at a camp for the summer…before wallowing for 3 months until I got a job at a retail store. Those 3 months sucked so much…but I kept hitting up those career/job websites and applying for everything, even if I didn’t think I totally qualified for it.

Sometimes you have to apply for things that seem like they are looking for more than you can give…because more often than not (from what I’ve been told) employers will settle for less experience and/or knowledge in the end if they don’t have many applications. Not saying you don’t have experience/knowledge, because your design skills are awesome so you definitely rock…but don’t sell yourself short! You definitely have lots to offer a company and I’m surprised that no one has snapped you up yet, seriously.

That’s how I got my current job…applied for everything under the sun. Office jobs, bookkeeping, libraries…really anything but food, lol. I actually found my company after searching for the word “assistant” even though it was a web design job! I remember you telling me you’re already using those career sites…but if you haven’t already, just type in any word you can think of that relates to what you want to do, or what you are willing to do. You’ll get a whole slew of listings you probably hadn’t seen before…employers are weird about posting on there I’ve found. :P

Anyhoo…GOOD LUCK! I know you’re going to find something soon! :D


Sarah

June 11th, 2008 at 9:59 pm

@Rachael: LAWLZ!

Wow, this is certainly getting interesting. I think we may have scared him off.


Jem

June 12th, 2008 at 8:40 pm

“i did all the work myself at university thank you i earn that degree”

..it just goes to show that they accept all sorts of tossers in uni, right?


Chris

June 15th, 2008 at 2:28 pm

So why dont you apply then jem your a tosser yourself


Sarah

June 15th, 2008 at 3:27 pm

@Chris: Jem is far from being a tosser. She is an established, successful young woman with more talent in her little finger than you have in your whole body.

Give up already, face it you have been owned. If Jem wanted, she could ruin you. I guarantee you would be crying to your mummy and daddy if you even dared challenge Jem. I thought you would have learned by now that challenging me and my visitors is futile? I suppose you would also threaten Jem with a lawsuit because mummy is a “Legal Secretary”. Well guess what, bucko? You can’t do squat. Mummy can’t do a thing, especially since iddle pwecious is the one starting the trouble.

You’re giving us a laugh, but you’re just pathetic now. You really are a poor excuse of a human being. You’re digging a deeper hole for yourself each time and you think you look the bigger person? Pah! You have lost, Mr L33t Golden Boy. :p


Sean

June 16th, 2008 at 8:35 am

Chris good job on getting your “degree” what fantastic job did it get you oh sorry you are still working at primark and by all account you are holding onto that job by a thread.

Chris you are never going to get anywhere because you are two things stupid and dishonest and until you can solve one of those problems you
wont be any better off.

By the way I think you should try and solve your dishonesty as I think your stupidity may not be solvable.

look forward to hearing your reply as I could do with a laugh


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Jem

June 16th, 2008 at 11:07 am

LOL. Chris, call me a tosser all you like, but I earn more in a day than you could even imagine earning in a week - and that’s without a degree.

So, if you don’t mind, that’s well paid tosser to you.


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